Dear Deidre: I am a cougar and should I marry my cub?

I'm 46 years old, a CFO of a transnational corporation, also a single mon with two children. My ex-husband and I divorced three years ago for that I caught him cheating on me for several times.

Since then, I kind of lost hope on marriage. I was devastated, so I begin to distract myself by trying something new. My friend introduced a software named CougarD. It's about finding young  and handsome men for women like me. So I thought why don't I try something good since I've decided to do it. What will I lose?
I never ask for a real relationship. It's just for fun. So I met my boyfriend Myron with this attitude. He's 31 years old, very attractive and muscular for that he worked in a gym as a fitness coach. He's a man of my dream, which is also the reason I chose him. At first, I thought that kind of apps are all about younger men in search for rich women to satisfy their material desire. After all, that's what I thought of Myron at the first place. I never thought there are still men who actually have special preference for older women.

Myron and I started going out since last year. He's a gentle and thoughtful man with a healing smile. I gradually pasted over the harm caused by my ex-husband and deeply fall in love with him. Of  course he's not as much rich as I. So I strictly refused when he offered to pay the meal. He never asked me for something he wants. But I'll willingly buy him nice and expensive gifts. In return, he also buys me something nice occasionally. It's been over a year since our first date. We both don't consider this relationship as a cougar hookup dating anymore. We know we love each other.
Last night, he booked a nice restaurant and took me to dinner. All of a sudden, he proposed. I never thought he would want a marriage with me. We both agreed to just enjoy each other's company.

I got scared, but I said "yes" for that I don't want him to be disappointed in public.
There are two reasons why I'm so hesitated. One is that I don't believe in marriage after my first one. Moreover, I find it's hard to trust him to be faithful in marriage especially with his pretty face and perfect body, while I'll lose my charming years later. I can't take for another hurt anymore. Second, I think he gradually gets used to use my money. He no longer offers to pay the meal and will used my money to pay it. One day, we went to shopping. He carried my bag for me, which is very considerate. I saw a beautiful purse with a not-so-expensive price and I knew he could afford it. So I thought he would buy it for me. But it really disappointed me that he naturally took out my wallet and used my credit card to pay for it. That's the minute he reminds me of sugar baby. Money is my last concern. I just thought even though I can afford everything I want, I still occasionally need to depend on him, no matter financially or mentally. That's when I don't think myself as a powerful businessman, but a woman that needs someone to rely on. But it seems not gonna happen if I marry him. But if I don't, I think it'll end our cougar dating relationship. I really don't want to lose him. What should I do?

As a plus-sized girl, how to become sexy?

Body shape is a common topic of all women including BBW women, it's not only a matter of beauty, but a matter of physical and mental health. In the past, most people think that fat women cannot be sexy and attractive, but now, things go differently. Never think that you are too fat to enjoy a happy life. Here are some advice for plus size women on how to become sexy and attractive on curvy dating.

Learn to appreciate your body shape. Nudity is a kind of natural beauty. There were many paintings and art works about nudity in ancient times. Never too shy to appreciate your body shape and show yourself. Once you can accept and appreciate yourself, and you can become confident and attractive.

Stay with people who appreciate you. Except self-appreciation, you need to find someone who can really appreciate you. As we know, stay with someone we don't like is quite unacceptable and uncomfortable. Life partner should be the one who can accept and appreciate everything about you, and only in this way can you become confident and charming.

Dress up carefully. Dress yourself properly, sexy doesn't mean low-cut clothes. You should dress in clothes that make you comfortable and charming. On the other hand, you don't need to wear oversized clothes to cover your extra kilograms, because it's no use and you may look fatter than before. Proper clothes can show your beautiful curve and make you look sexy. No matter fat or slim, you should have your own dressing style.

Buy some new clothes and accessories. Shopping is the best way to relax yourself. Dressing up yourself with some new clothes, shoes and accessories, you may feel confident than ever before. Everything is ready, now it's time for you to have a hookup date with someone you like.

Take some sexy pictures. Most of big sized people don't like to take photos, because it's hard for them to have a nice photo. It seems like impossible for them to take a sexy photo. Don't worry, a professional photographer can take a sexy and attractive photo for you, no matter you are fat or slim. Through the sexy photo, you can appreciate yourself and find your own advantages, you may even find that you are more beautiful and attractive than what you thought.

Exercise. You don't need to loss weight if you're not ready for it. You can start to have some exercise like, walking, runing and something else. Exercise is good for health, more improtantly, it can make you feel happy. People who exercise frequently are healthier than others. Try to change something in your life, you can find the other side of your life by this way.

Sexy is not a matter of body shape but a matter of soul and spirit, so what you need do is to enrich your inner part firstly. You should know how to accept and appreciate yourself. Only if you are confident enough to show yourself, then other people can know you clearly. Be a confident girl, find your own way of dressing and acting. With advice above, you can become more and more sexy.

Tips for having a Successful Threesome

Having threesome is just not a dream but also a personal and very strong desire for every man that he would like to complete in any case or cost. But there are few cautions that you need to take care before entering yourself into a threesome dating on tinder for threesome. Having a strong sexual desire is must but playing with other two partners at a same time need lot more than only have sexual desire. Are you strong enough to make come for two women in a same time? However there are many other things that you need to know before entering in threesome love. Here are few tips that you need to apply before having threesome or in between threesome –

Be clear it first with your partner – having threesome means the rules and enjoyment is quite similar for both you and your girl friend or wife. Means if you are assuming two women with you in bed for threesome, at the same time, your wife or girl friend would also imagine her with two men. So, it’s quite mandatory to be clear right from the beginning before it’s too late and your relationship will affected. It’s best if you both you and your wife or girl friend make it clear before entering yourself in a threesome hookup.

Must value each other thoughts or ideas – If you have plans for threesome dating but your wife already thinks different. It’s the stage where one has to bend or compromise in front of others. If you both stuck on their plans and would like to go according to your plan only, you are not really the one that can enjoy the threesome completely.

Must talk about threesome and why you are looking for threesome – hence, threesome is everyone’s personal desires but still you have to discuss about threesome that why you actually need a threesome. When you are asked from your wife or girl friend that why you need a threesome, be honest with her and share exactly what you feel about threesome. Being honest brings you more fun and may also introduces other sex options like sex toys etc..

Must discuss your role in threesome and what kind of threesome you are going to experience – you must know that what is your role in threesome. What is your partner expecting from you? Suppose two females and one male (MFF) are having threesome, than what exactly each one do. Will a male candidate penetrate both females? Will both females only playing with a male participant or they can also play together. If two males and one female will take part in threesome, than what’s the role of males here. Will they penetrate only that female or they can have fun with each other as well. These things are quite not a very big but essential and one of the mandatory things. So, it’s better if you can discuss about your roles first to avoid any awkward moments later in between your threesome.

So, follow these tips and you will surely hit a amazing threesome.

Where to find a local transgender woman?

This article is mainly about where to find local transgender people. As we all know, it's hard for some transgender men and transgender women to find perfect local trans partners. According to some research about trans dating, here's a summary of some places where you can find local transgender people.

Some big cities have many ladyboy like London, New York, Berlin and Paris, maybe you can find a trans woman in these places. But unfortunately, 99 percent of transgender people don't want to go there because they don't see themselves as a trade. These transgender people prefer to call themselves men or women rather than tranny.

In most cities, bars are also a good place to find a transgender woman. If you just want to have fun, you can go there because there are a lot of ladyboy out there performed for money. But if you are looking for a trans partner for your wife, you shouldn't go there.
In fact, many transgender people hate this phenomenon of ladyboy making money by performing. Because of this, most people think that transgender people are a tool of entertainment. They all want to find a partner and a serious relationship after gender reassignment surgery, not be discriminated against. So if you're looking for a serious relationship, the bar isn't a good place.

As a matter of fact, the Internet is the best place to find transgender dating. In recent years, online dating is becoming more and more popular. There are also a number of trans dating sites and apps that can help you quickly find a trans girlfriend. According to some transgender people's experience, it takes less time to meet trans women on some transgender dating websites and apps based on the positioning function. As an example, you live in London and you want to find a potential partner in Paris, you only need to spend a few minutes setting the terms on the site and searching for your perfect partner instead of spending hours on other social platforms. In addition, some of the ancillary features of trans dating sites and hookup apps can help you get a better experience and increase your chances of finding a local transsexual.

When you're dating a trans woman, don't talk about the fact that cis women are normal or regular. You should know that trans women can never be cis women even if they have gender reassignment surgery. That's why they want to be transgender women instead of cis women. Therefore, when you're dating a transgender woman, don't compare the trans women to the cis woman.

When you know where to meet trans women, is it so easy and convenient to find a decent transgender woman. But it's not enough to know where to find them. You need more dating tips and tricks to help you to find a perfect trans girlfriend.

Five types of men that plus size women should avoid

If you were a plus size woman, do not be ashamed of your big body shape. There are many BBW dating sites for you, you can meet lots of men from different places and have many chances to find your love. Dating with the right man is a little bit difficult sometimes, but those hookup apps still worthy of trying. And when BBW seek for a man on those dating sites, there are five types of men that you should avoid and then you have higher possibility to find the best man for you. Here are them as follow.

First of all, men who just care about sex. These men who seldome ask you about your interests, hobbies or some other personal information, on the contrary, they often ask you sexual questions and pay more attention to your look. This type of man you should avoid. Secondly, those men who take interest in your money. If the man you date with ask you whether you have your own house or not? Do you have a job and how much your wage is every year? You have to be careful, because those men almost like your money rather than you. Thirdly, those men who just play with you and enjoy the short fun with you. 

After the first date, if you are interested in a man, i believe you want to have a second date with him. But if the man refuse to do that or even do not keep in touch with you for a long time, you should realize that maybe he is not really interested in you and just looking for fun. Fourthly, those men who often ask you very personal questions. If you meet this kind of man, you have to remember that do not tell all your information to him, because some of them may collect so many women's information and then sell those information to criminals. Isn't it a dangerous thing? I think so. So, stay away from those dangerous men. Last but not last, there are some men who look very handsome for those women. But they usually ignore your ideas when you have dates together, they are eager to make decisions and seldom ask your opinions. You have to think it over when you meet a man like this.

In conclusion, you must be very careful when you seek for your partner on dating sites, and in order to be cheated by some bad men, you should avoid those five types men that i have mentioned.

Famous people with chubby body

Many TV stars diet for many years to loss weight, and they think plus size is their key to success. While, for people who is famous and successful, obesity has never been a serious problem. They feel proud of their body and enjoy their curve.

Adele - a famous singer from the UK. Her beautiful voice is hard to forget, and her fat body is also as memorable as her voice. Instead of losing weight, she is quite proud of her figure and enjoy the real life.

Kelly Clarkson, a winner of American Idol. She used to be slim and sexy, but with many negative comments. Now she is a mother of two kids, and fatter than before. She don't care about her figure and the negative comments, and just enjoy her big size. She is a big beautiful woman.

Jennifer Hudson, a famous American R&B singer who is known as American Idol. She started to loss weight when she realized she was very fat. After a long journey of losing weight, she becomes slenderer than before. As an XL sized girl now, she is still beautiful and sexy.

Kanye West’s wife Kim Kardashian is known for her curve. She is known for her difference from others. Her big breast and hip make her charming and attractive. She is a mother of two kids now, but she still very confident to show herself and she is often seen in many magazines and fashion shows.

Queen Latifah, the singer and actress from US. She as a BBW is proud of her big hips and never loss weight. She used to loss weight to meet the needs of movies, but recovered to her normal weight in a short time. She is very confident and never mind what others say.

Beyonce Knowles, an African singer, She is very proud of her shape, and never mind taking photos in any occasion. She believes nature is the best and is happy to show the shape of her body.

Oprah Winfrey, an American TV show host. She has been losing weight for many years, and her weight even attracted the media attention. Now, she stop paying too much attention on her weight, and learn to enjoy her body.

Christina Aguilera, a famous American pop singer. She used to be slim and beautiful. After giving born to her two kids, she became fatter than before. But now, she is very proud of her curve, it's another kinds of beauty in her mind. She said she will never have a diet to loss weight.

Geri Halliwell from former Spice Girls. She was a slim and sexy girl before. The career pressure changed her a lot, including her body shape, she became a fat girl. After trying all ways of losing weight, she start to accept herself and enjoy the real life.

Gabourey Sidibe, a famous Black skinned actress. She is famous for her outstanding acting skills and body shapes. Although everyone advise her to loss weight, she never think she need to do so. Instead of pay much attention on her body, she focus on her acting skills and career.

Things to do or not while dating a Transsexual Women

Dating is something that makes everyone a super excited especially when it’s all about transgender dating. Finding a transsexual women isn’t that difficult especially when there are plenty of online trans dating websites. One of the main issues with ts dating is to keep your relationship with a transsexual woman for long. Men looking for a tranny date often make a misconception that a transsexual woman is easy to pick and date. But it isn’t really correct and transsexual women are not only hard to find but also very tricky to maintain a relationship with transsexual women. Here are few tips and tricks while dating a transsexual woman.

Be wise while selecting a date venue 

it is important that you know everything about the place where you both are going to meet and will stay for couple of hours without any discomfort or any other social issues. Place must be well know to both of you and not much far from your residence. Also, you have to take care that the meeting place is quite comfortable for transsexuals and transsexual hookup dating otherwise you may face trouble from other people around you.

Be economical

You are on a date and everyone has a budget while going somewhere. It’s better to manage only those things or places which you can afford and are in your budget. It is important to stay with your budget on your first date. Once you and your transsexual friend come close to each other, you can tell her that your budget is limited and we have to stay with it. However it is also important that on your first date, you won’t allow her to pay bills on your first date.

Must have a good memory

hence you both met online and it’s obvious that you both have chatted a lot and that’s the reason you are on a date now. It’s mandatory to remember all your chats while you are with your transsexual friend. You never know what and when she will ask from you or while ordering something in restaurant or bar, you forget her favorite drink or food that she already told you in chat.

What about Second Date

everything is going good and your date night comes to the point where you both says good bye with a gentle hug. What’s next? Go and ask for a second date or exchange contact numbers if possible. It’s the best time to ask her for second date and meet again after some days. Don’t forget to share your contact number and take her contact number too.

Intimate you when reach home

ask her to text you when she reaches home safely. This may show your caring and genuine character of yours and build a good impression. This may increase the chances to have a second date soon with your transsexual friend.
These are the common but gentle etiquettes that you have to follow while going on your first date with a transsexual woman.